Many candidates write the oft repeated lines as their Objective in the CV – Right Attitude and Right Altitude or something like that. :)
It always made me wonder if so many of them have ‘Right’ Attitudes – we may soon have a ‘Problem of Plenty’ in the C Suites of Corporates and the Skies will not be enough and we will have to trans-Port/ Transfer some people to other promising planets like Moon or Mars!
That brings me to the Question – Is there something called a ‘Right Attitude’.
What is Attitude? I read somewhere:
What is an attitude? An attitude is a point of view (POV) about a situation. An attitude has three components. An attitude is made up of:
- What you think.
- What you do.
- What you feel
No matter what situation you are in you always have certain thoughts about it. Youalso have an emotional response to it, and you behave a certain way in it. To begin changing your attitude you either change your thinking, the way you act, or the way you feel. Two of these choices are easier to influence than the third.
Whenever life acts we respond. If we win the lottery we might be happy. If we lose our job we may be angry. Whatever our reaction it will depend upon our attitude.Fortunately, we control our attitudes.
In determining how we face life it is our attitude that is the key. You may agree or disagree with : “You are responsible for all of your experiences of life.” This statement is absolutely true but it is somewhat of a trick. The trick is that it does not say “in life” but “of life.” You are not responsible for everything that happens to you, but you are responsible for how you react to what does happen to you. The formula is that, “Life acts. You react.”
Makes Sense, No?
Again – Definition of Attitude = a favorable or unfavorable evaluative reaction toward something or someone, exhibited in ones beliefs, feelings, or intended behavior (Myers, p. 36).
It is a social orientation – an underlying inclination to respond to something either favorably or unfavorably.
Components of attitudes.
a. Cognitive – our thoughts, beliefs, and ideas about something. When a human being is the object of an attitude, the cognitive component is frequently a stereotype, e.g. “welfare recipients are lazy”
b. Affective – feelings or emotions that something evokes. e.g. fear, sympathy, hate. May dislike welfare recipients.
c. Conative, or behavioral – tendency or disposition to act in certain ways toward something. Might want to keep welfare recipients out of our neighborhood. Emphasis is on the tendency to act, not the actual acting; what we intend and what we do may be quite different.
Let us now see what is Ideal?
IDEAL : An ideal is a standard by which one lives. “The ideal gives us a sense of stability, guidance and orientation, as well as a criterion for judgments.” (Puryear & Thurston, 1987, p. 95)
“An ideal is not a goal. It is a motivational standard by which to evaluate our goals and our reasons for pursuing those goals. The goal is what; the ideal is why! A spiritual ideal is not so much a goal toward which we move as it is the spirit in which we grow. It is a living and dynamic standard by which we quicken and measure our daily motivation.” (Puryear, 1982, p. 112)
Let us look at the following interesting quote:
“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde
I saw this question on a Q&A website once. “What’s the ideal attitude towards a person who considers you a fool for being good to him or her?” :)
The best answer chosen was ” “If you encounter a person, who for one reason or the other, live with life long battered self-esteem, gravely look down on him or herself, to the extent that, if you have reasons to appreciate, love or treat such person better than he or she thinks is deserved and responds by making you feel very much like a fool for doing that, what’s the best way of dealing with such person? So, that you don’t hurt them or yourself.”
Now let us look at the original Question I asked – Is there something called ‘Right Attitude?”
- The goal is what; the ideal is why!
- “The ideal gives us a sense of stability, guidance and orientation, as well as a criterion for judgments.”
- An attitude is a point of view (POV) about a situation. An attitude has three components. An attitude is made up of:
- What you think.
- What you do.
- What you feel
Let us now try and combine the two and what do we have ? We said earlier, ‘What’ is a Goal and ‘Why’ is an Ideal. So let us say the Reason ‘Why’ with a POV would / should help us define Right Attitude. No?
So the Positive Traits of Idealist Attitude are said to be: Ability to coalesce ideals, Cheerful, Optimistic, Finds new ways of doing things, Makes a positive mark in the world, Sees the bright side of life, Sees the world as how it “should” be,
And the Negative Traits are: False expectations, Greatly disappointed, Out of touch with real world, Naive, Pie in the sky, Unrealistic outlook.
Many Idealists are full of aphorisms — wise sayings. They quote these to others when they believe the occasion demands it. Such things as “It’s all for the best”, or “It will all work out”, or “People do the best they can” are some examples.
The Opposite of the Idealist Attitude is the Intellectual Center. Idealists are sometimes anti-intellectual, meaning they regard reason and logic as limited, unable to encompass the totality of existence. Idealists and Intellectually centered people comprehend reality in quite different ways, both limited. When both are present in the same person, it can create internal contradictions and inconsistencies.
The complement of the Idealist Attitude is the Skeptic Attitude. “For believers, no explanation is necessary. For nonbelievers, no explanation is possible.” That statement sums up the difference between the two extremes of Skeptic and Idealist.
Trust is a big issue with both Attitudes. Idealists rarely check things out or question them. Idealists think they already have all the answers inside themselves, so there is no use investigating the world to discover them. Idealists are rarely suspicious. Rather, Idealists give others their trust and if it is ever lost it is because the others proved themselves untrustworthy. Even then, Idealists are liable to invoke extenuating circumstances so that they can still believe in the goodness of others and the beauty of the world.
Skeptics are more penetrating in their thoughts, but Idealists get the overview, the big picture. Skeptics and Idealists are both concerned with issues of “what is reality” and “what is illusion”.
Skeptics see the physical universe as reality and anything else as illusion. They say mind is a product of matter. Idealists see principles and ideas as the ultimate reality, and everything else as illusion. They say the physical universe is a product of an infinite mind.
Is this why they say that your Attitude decides the Altitude you will attain in Life? I am confused enough:) Hope you are too:) !
Have a Great day.
Pictures Credit: Amateur Artist – Dhananjay Parkhe